Saturday, February 5, 2011

AND THE WHEEL GOES ROUND AND ROUND

On Friday a group was being taken by The Home’s van to a large market in another town. This store carries a wide range of products not found in most grocery stores. It’s a little more expensive, but the uniqueness excels.

The morning actually got off to a rather awkward start. The departure was to be at 10:30. The van did not show up. After a great deal of guesstimation one people made a phone call and another walked to the office to find out what happened. As it turned out the lady in charge had not been in the office all week. Her father passed away on Monday.

Everyone at the office knew she was gone, but no one was watching our schedule and clearly did not know that any trip was planned at The Home. While they were trying to sort things out and see if they could find another van driver, Maria and Chas got into it.

Maria came to visit yesterday and present her side of the story. Her anger and animosity toward Chas has been growing. When that happens it takes very little to set her off. The conflict was over a piece of information. We have one lady in hospice now and the word was that another one was going. Chas had heard that Grace was to be transferred to hospice. She has an aggressive form of cancer and it is taking over. He made the statement that she would be going soon. Maria’s tactful and gentle response was, that’s a lie. You don’t know what you are talking about.

It takes very little imagination to guess how Chas responded. He blew up right back. They argued. Maria said Grace was not going to hospice, Chas said he was told she was. Technically they may have both been right. She may not be going and Chas may have been told she was.. I didn’t know that was something worth fighting over.

Rocky was given permission to drive the group to the market. The trip was made without incident.

So Maria is bad mouthing Chas and Chas says he doesn’t understand why it was such a big deal. Maybe it was big because some people just want to fight and have no idea how to remain calm. Gail came down today to tell me what she understood about this argument and is worried that Maria is taking sides with Olivia and may end up being part of our restitution group. I share her concern since I believe the focus will become Maria. Another woman has said she has had it with Maria and will not take her in her car anymore. That list continues to grow. Many make the statement weeks before they actually stop.

While with me yesterday Maria told me she has the same illnesses I have. She recommended garlic salt as a replacement for salt. At the Market she ordered a large salad loaded with Vitamin K. She loves her fried food. I’m not going to say she’s wrong, but my doctors gave me completely different advice. Go figure.

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