Monday, December 20, 2010

NOW I UNDERSTAND

Chas came by for a visit tonight. He has been reading his Bible tonight and feels like he wants to apologize. He asked that I write a letter to the court for him. I got to read the court order for the first time. What he interpreted as a restraining order was a list of things Olivia wanted from the court. There were crossed out. I can understand why he was confused. The judge simply drew a couple lines through all her requests and only signed the order for him to appear in court.

I appreciate his desire to apologize, but the matter is not a legal one. As he was explaining what he wanted he was really apologizing for her. That’s not really possible. He can only accept responsibility for what he did, not what she thinks he did.

When he moved into The Home they were in separate buildings. She didn’t like how loud is voice his. It’s true he dues not really whisper. He can be heard from a long distance away. Several people have worked with him over the years to tone his volume down. The loudness comes across as anger. He is just trying to get attention. It could be quieter.

We went over everything he said and what he wants. My assignment is to write the letter. I have done this several times for him. This may be the hardest letter yet. I know what he wants, but the matter is also a legal one so I do not want him accepting blame that is not his. He wants it to end so is willing to take all the blame. Like I said yesterday, the court hearing will not likely end the matter. She is another of our tenants who does not forget and will not forgive.

I just started Christmas Cards today. I don’t mail any. These just get handed out around The Home. I will do a Christmas greeting on me email list and facebook account. I rarely use the mail any more. Lazy I guess. I will wrap all this up by Wednesday. I will be away from my computer until Dec. 27. I will write for the next two days and then again on the 27th.

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